Making friends is never easy. But this task can be especially difficult for people on the autism spectrum, who sometimes have difficulty communicating or interacting with others. But no matter who you are, there are tips that can make meeting people and creating lifelong friendships a bit easier.
People Who Make Friends Easily:
1. Are Comfortable with Themselves
Before you can expect others to like you, you have to like yourself. And the best way to do this? Spend time with yourself. Go out to dinner or a movie alone, or get involved in an activity that you love. The more you learn about yourself, the more secure and happy you’ll be.
2. Chase Their Passions, Not People
Think about it, where did you meet the people you’re friends with today? You probably didn’t just bump into them on the street, but rather met them at an event or activity you were interested in. The best way to meet new people is to attend a class on something you’re interested in. Whether it’s sports, the arts, TV and film, or technology, attend a class or museum and strike up a conversation with someone there.
3. Are Not Afraid to Reach Out First
After you’ve found that person you connect with, don’t be afraid to ask for their phone number and make tentative plans. If you haven’t heard from them in a few days, don’t be afraid to take the first step and reach out to them.
4. Have a Positive Attitude
Who are you more likely to approach, someone frowning with their head buried in their phone or someone who is smiling and talking with others? Odds are, it’s the latter. Be someone that you would want to talk with, so smile at others, ask questions, and invite others to join you if you see they’re alone.
5. Say “Yes” to New Experiences
Even if a small piece of you would rather stay in, it’s important to step out of your comfort zone if you want to meet others. Say “yes” to the party your friend invites you to or “yes” to trying a new sport. These are the outings that will start lifelong friendships.
Debra Solomon, the founder of Spectrum Strategies, has many services waiting for you. From time management and productivity workshops to individual coaching, she is an expert in her field. Debra is focused on training young adults on the autism spectrum to accomplish life and career goals, no matter how big or small. She believes that through determination and commitment, every client has the ability to live life to the fullest. Call (516) 822-3150 for your one-on-one and let’s get you reaching for the stars!