Every teenager dreams of the day when they can move out of their parent’s home and live alone. So when moving day finally arrives, they’re bound to be pretty excited. But between laundry, cleaning, and cooking, transitioning to living on your own can be difficult. And if your little one (who’s not so little anymore!) has Asperger’s, the adjustment can be even more challenging. If your child is ready to move into their own place, here are a few ways you can make sure the transition is a successful one.
Ask For Outside Help
There’s no shame in admitting you can’t do everything. Before your child moves out, see if there are any programs in the area that will help with the move itself, finances, and even in-home care. Autism Speaks provides a full list of residential services you can apply for.
Find a Safe and Supportive Place
Your child might be living independently, but that doesn’t mean they’ll never need help. Before you start looking at houses and apartments, decide on how far from home your child will be moving. First time movers, especially those who may need assistance, should stay in the same neighborhood or area as their family.
Maintain or Reestablish Any Needed Medical Services
If your child received any type of therapy or medical care while living at home, make sure you either update all of their contact information (if they’ll be staying with the same companies), or find a new, reputable service closer to their new home.
Participate in Meaningful Activities
Going from living in a house full of family members to suddenly living alone can be a huge adjustment. Having scheduled activities will help get your child out of their house and used to a schedule. Depending on their interests and needs, help them find a job, join a local club, or find a place to volunteer.
Give Them Space, But Keep an Eye on Them
Your child is a young adult now and wants his/her own space, so respect that. But giving them space doesn’t mean you can never stop by. When you visit, make sure you ask meaningful questions, like: “Is living on your own ever overwhelming?” “What are you struggling with?” “What is your favorite part about living independently?”
Debra Solomon, founder of
Spectrum Strategies sees the strength and beauty in each and every individual with Asperger’s Syndrome and autism. Debra is focused on training young adults on the Autism Spectrum and with Asperger’s to accomplish life and career goals, no matter how big or small. She believes that through determination and commitment, every client has the ability to live life to their fullest potential. Call (516) 822-3150 for your first one-on-one!
